How can a husband of 40 years abandon his wife when she becomes mentally ill?
January 30th, 2010 | by admin |
bye bye asked:
My step great grandfather abandoned mt great maw maw when her dementia set in. She potty trained and cared for his mentally challenged son for the past 40 years. Why would he ditch her without notifying her children?
My step great grandfather abandoned mt great maw maw when her dementia set in. She potty trained and cared for his mentally challenged son for the past 40 years. Why would he ditch her without notifying her children?
She ended up staying in her house 2 months all alone and not bathing and nobody to take care of her. It hurts to know that he took advantage of her for 40 years and when she needed him he abandoned her.
Veronica
15 Responses to “How can a husband of 40 years abandon his wife when she becomes mentally ill?”
By ruth on Feb 2, 2010 | Reply
Caroline
He’s a selfish jerk. I wonder if this is criminal, actually.
By boogar on Feb 4, 2010 | Reply
Thomas
That’s messed up. That’s not something you or I could answer. But believe me, he will one day answer to God…
I must ask you to consider another side, though. I have a hard time believing he doesn’t love her after staying around for 40years… that just doesn’t make any sense. It sounds to me like it hurts him too much to see her that way and he would rather remember her the way he wants to so instead of being there through this difficult time… he chose to take the easy way out and keeps telling himself the real her is already gone.
By I cant think of a cool name on Feb 7, 2010 | Reply
Josephine
No way to know what he was thinking other then he was thinking of himself.
Good luck figuring that out!
By Thanks! on Feb 9, 2010 | Reply
Annette
He never loved her to begin with, how disgusting! Another shocker is that for 2 months her children and grandchildren did not come to visit. You guys are partly to blame for that one, sorry. Who does not visit their elderly mother/grandmother for 2months or at least make sure someone else has visited in person.
By David R on Feb 12, 2010 | Reply
Rosemary
It sounds like maybe he had dementia also.
By jude on Feb 14, 2010 | Reply
Rosemary
as soon as their was no gain with the relationship he bailed out, making him a very selfish man.
By weeOne on Feb 15, 2010 | Reply
Lorraine
Sorry to hear that. My ex-husband’s grandfather from the mother side did the same thing and cut everyone out of the will who were related to the grandmother, even his own kids. He quickly remarried and passed his wealth to his new wife.
It is just stupidity and selfishness of that person. He was looking for someone to take care of his problem and would run off when problems started to affect the other person. I am so sure that he would have stuck around if he had dementia. Just a damn user!
By Kitty K on Feb 17, 2010 | Reply
Matthew
Selfish and scared.
Don’t worry. He’ll get his.
By Change I Can't Live With on Feb 19, 2010 | Reply
Marie
That sounds like something that he could criminally go to jail for
If I were you I’d march myself right down to the local police station and start pressing charges on this sorry @ss
By Eddie Cacciatore, Private Eye on Feb 21, 2010 | Reply
Phillip
Some repayment, huh? None of us really know if our spouse will be there for us or not unless he/she is tested.
By raspberryph on Feb 24, 2010 | Reply
Francis
Its very sad but maybe he is not well himself and not making decisions he would normally make. Obviously he doesnt know how or want to care for anybody, if she cared for his son. Just see is as a blessing that she took care of his child and I hope someone will step up and help her… this man is not mentally capable, which is very sad but reality.
By windmill ever on Feb 27, 2010 | Reply
Timothy
He finally had an excuse
By autumn on Mar 2, 2010 | Reply
Cory
I agree wholeheartedly with ruth. If he couldn’t handle it, to abandon her is one thing, but to leave her alone like that without notifying anyone, one has to wonder if that would be a criminal act. My parents were in a long marriage, and when my mom got ill, my dad was there for her, right by her side. She died 4 years ago and he still grieves for her. I think your step great grandfather used her and I wouldn’t be surprised if he abused her, too. It just sounds like the actions of an abuser. Sorry to hear that.
By Gaia Raain II on Mar 4, 2010 | Reply
Phillip
Wow. What a complete SOB. I wish I could be totally shocked by this…but I’ve seen too much of it. Call the authorities. That would be abuse, and he should be held accountable for his actions.
ETA: After reading the other answers, YES, it is a criminal act. He was responsible for her care and welfare, knowing full well that she had dementia and was incapable of caring for herself. If he’s reported and nothing happens, I’d be shocked.
By thanks to our brave troops, on Mar 6, 2010 | Reply
Gene
that is just cruel of him, how could any one do that to some one they love